Whether you’re stepping onto campus for the first time or returning for another semester, the transition to college can feel unsettling. It’s common to experience a mixture of emotions from excitement and joy to anxiety, uncertainty, and loneliness. You may, in fact, experience a wide range of emotions all at the same time! This is totally normal, and often a healthy response to a significant life shift.
Why Do I Feel “Off”? The human brain thrives on patterns and familiarity. The new schedules, unfamiliar academic demands, and different social dynamics that accompany going to college disrupt what your brain expects. This can trigger both significant positive feelings as well as more negative emotional responses like worry and fear. You may also experience physical responses like shaking, fatigue, or nausea. Feeling “off,” whether the result of positive, negative, or a mixture of emotions (most likely!) is your brain’s reaction to being unsettled and is its way of asking for stability.
The good news? There are strategies available to help you quickly reset your nervous system and help you feel more grounded.
- Name It to Tame It
When you feel off, whether because of intense positive, negative or combination of emotions-take a moment to name the emotion(s). Are you nervous? Lonely? Eager? Research shows that labeling emotions and giving yourself permission to feel them helps calm the brain. Try saying to yourself: “I’m feeling overly excited right now, and that makes sense.” Or “It’s okay to be anxious; I’m doing the best I can.” Self-compassion reduces stress and builds resilience. - Five Senses Check-In
Ground yourself by taking a few minutes and consciously noticing one thing you see, hear, smell, taste, and touch. Focus on each for several seconds or more. This practice helps bring you into the present moment and signals safety to your nervous system. - Anchor with Intentional Breathing
Spend 1-2 minutes inhaling for 4 counts, holding for 4, and exhaling for 6. Repeat. This simple breathing technique can reduce emotional arousal and clear mental fog. - Set a Small Routine
Predictability can be stabilizing. Choose and commit to consistently doing one small, daily habit like making your bed, packing your backpack, laying out your clothes, or walking to class via the same route to give each day a reliable anchor. - Create a “Grounding Go To List”
Make a short list of activities that help you feel steady or “grounded.” Include simple things like making a certain snack or drink, stretching, reading a particular short passage, texting a specific friend, imagining a soothing place, coloring, playing an instrument, or listening to a favorite song. When you feel “off balance”, select one thing to do from your list and give your full attention to it.
Changes in routines and surroundings can be dysregulating. Feeling “off” as you transition to college for the first time or at the beginning of a semester doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong or that you don’t belong. It means you’re human and in most instances, going through a normal and healthy adjustment process. Try one or more of these strategies to help find your emotional footing and feel more grounded as you settle in for the fall semester.
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Beth A. Howland is a higher education consultant and college student success coach based in Ithaca, NY. She is the founder of College Navigators, LLC. Check out all of Beth’s previous posts about college student success. Follow her on Facebook and Instagram.
